Good Guy vs. Bad Boy

Good Guy vs. Bad Boy

"Women love a bad boy and when you have a bad boy who can dance, it slays them."
A quote by choreographer Brian Friedman on the late Patrick Swayze's role of Johnny Castle in 'Dirty Dancing'. Adored by millions of girls around the world and regarded as the ultimate chick flick, from the moment Swayze walks into the main hotel during that first scene, in that tight white t-shirt and those black shades women let out a collective sigh and boyfriends and husbands shake their heads. But, what they never do is hang around to find out exactly why that character has that effect on women.
To all the guys that have ever complained, "Women want a bad boy and then moan when they get treated badly," it's really very simple. What woman really want is the nice guy, with a bit of bad thrown in for good measure! Nice guys moan that they never get the girl, for instance Dylan, an old school friend who's Mum made the best fairy cakes I've ever tasted, slurred after a few too many buy-one-get-one-free drinks in the pub one weekend that he was the flowers and hearts guy, who had never even thought about cheating once in his life yet he was single. Whereas, his close friend Jay, who's in the Navy girls, has never stuck to one woman for more than six weeks yet has women lusting over him in every part of the country, what was up with that?
Unfortunately for Dylan he had answered his own question in that very sentence. Jay's in the Navy and for any woman who's ever seen 'An Officer and a Gentleman' with his boyish grin and naval physique it's no wonder Jay has a different woman every few weeks. It's a sad tale boys but sometimes we just want to be treated like they are in the movies, teach us how to gyrate like Johnny, show off your flying skills e.g, Maverick in 'Topgun', indulge our fantasies a little bit, we know it's not real life but just indulge us once in a while and, believe me, we'll thank you.
However, if you can't dance and don't have a plane handy do not despair boys because...(and I'm letting you in on a major secret here!)...girls don't want a bad boy, they want a good guy who has a secret bad boy streak.
The infamous sex scene between Johnny and Baby is sexy for entirely different reasons to a woman than to a guy, to you boys it may just be a half-naked girl and guy getting it on but to us girls he's a bad boy being gentle AND sexy, he undresses her with such care and sensuality that that is the exact reason why we love it! But that sexual attraction is heightened by the fact that a man could be so gentle yet ready to throw a punch to protect your honour if needed.
"Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" might work in some situations but there's only so much being treated "mean" a girl can take and ,essentially, unless you're a good guy who can masquerade as a bad boy when the time is right e.g. slide your arms around us at the kitchen sink after dinner and whisper how much you want us...on the table...now! That's all the bad boy we need to make us sigh like we do at Patrick. At the end of all those chick flicks we watch and books we read the bad boy who doesn't call never gets the girl, the nice guy always wins, it's the bad boy passion we crave not the bad boy attitude. And who knows what wicked side that might bring out in us boys.